Tuesday, April 28, 2009

Surviving Your Wedding Day Jitters

Congratulations! You are finally getting married. You have met and fallen in love with the person whom you have chosen to spend the rest of your life. So why are you nervous? Those wedding day jitters are merely your mind’s natural and healthy response to one of the most important decisions you will make in your lifetime.

I find that with some mental discipline, you can curb some of the anxiety that will occur the day of your wedding. Here are some important things it is important that you do not think about the day of your wedding. Follow these simple mental guidelines, and you are sure to enjoy the special day of the commitment of your eternal love.

1. Try not to think of this person you are about to join in matrimony as the last person you will ever have sex with again. Ever.

2. Do not spend a great deal of time with your fiancée’s large, obnoxious and unattractive family, because you may imagine every future holiday and special event of your life being surrounded by them.

3. Do not look at your fiancée’s parents and grandparents and imagine your future spouse at their age.

4. Try not to think of your favorite past lovers, especially those who broke your heart, or whom you consider “the one that got away”.

5. Do not mentally calculate the total cost of your wedding.

6. Do not think about all your fiancée’s flaws, annoying habits, or poor hygiene routines.

7. Try not to reminisce about all the freedom you enjoyed in your youth.

8. Do not envision your life as a middle aged person trapped in a dead end job with a crushing mortgage and insurmountable credit card debt, with ungrateful hungry children and with a lifetime of regrets and broken dreams under your belt.

9. Do not compare your relationship to the seemingly perfect and happy relationships your friends seem to enjoy.

10. Do not mentally calculate the odds of infidelity (Percentage of marriages where one or both spouses admit to infidelity, either physical or emotional: 41%), domestic abuse (It is estimated that a domestic violence act occurs every 15 seconds somewhere in the United States. That figure translates to over 2.5 million victims per year), and divorce (Percentage of marriages that end in divorce in America: 53% that occur annually in the United States.

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