Why You Should Always Do A Background Check Before You Say "I Do"

Wedding canceled over porn secret
Former fiance issues an apology
By LILY FU, Special Contributor

LONDON - A woman has decided to cancel her wedding after finding out her fiance is a porn star.

The Telegraph reports that Haylie Hockling, 27, found out that Jason Brake, 30, was making adult movies without her knowledge just weeks before the big day. Hockling found out about his secret life after her friend who was organizing her bachelorette party was searching for male strippers online. She came across a porn movie that featured Brake and another woman.

"There was no way I could marry an adult film star," Hockling said. "I don't know if I will ever be able to trust a man again."

Brake had told Hockling that he was a personal trainer and admitted to her that he was making films on the side before they met. "The sex side is purely for the camera, but Haylie did not understand I was only acting," Brake said. "I am sorry and did not want to hurt her. I still love Haylie and would have stopped doing porn if she had asked me to."

(PS - this picture is not Jason Brake - its Mark Spitz)

Surviving Your Wedding Day Jitters

Congratulations! You are finally getting married. You have met and fallen in love with the person whom you have chosen to spend the rest of your life. So why are you nervous? Those wedding day jitters are merely your mind’s natural and healthy response to one of the most important decisions you will make in your lifetime.

I find that with some mental discipline, you can curb some of the anxiety that will occur the day of your wedding. Here are some important things it is important that you do not think about the day of your wedding. Follow these simple mental guidelines, and you are sure to enjoy the special day of the commitment of your eternal love.

1. Try not to think of this person you are about to join in matrimony as the last person you will ever have sex with again. Ever.

2. Do not spend a great deal of time with your fiancée’s large, obnoxious and unattractive family, because you may imagine every future holiday and special event of your life being surrounded by them.

3. Do not look at your fiancée’s parents and grandparents and imagine your future spouse at their age.

4. Try not to think of your favorite past lovers, especially those who broke your heart, or whom you consider “the one that got away”.

5. Do not mentally calculate the total cost of your wedding.

6. Do not think about all your fiancée’s flaws, annoying habits, or poor hygiene routines.

7. Try not to reminisce about all the freedom you enjoyed in your youth.

8. Do not envision your life as a middle aged person trapped in a dead end job with a crushing mortgage and insurmountable credit card debt, with ungrateful hungry children and with a lifetime of regrets and broken dreams under your belt.

9. Do not compare your relationship to the seemingly perfect and happy relationships your friends seem to enjoy.

10. Do not mentally calculate the odds of infidelity (Percentage of marriages where one or both spouses admit to infidelity, either physical or emotional: 41%), domestic abuse (It is estimated that a domestic violence act occurs every 15 seconds somewhere in the United States. That figure translates to over 2.5 million victims per year), and divorce (Percentage of marriages that end in divorce in America: 53% that occur annually in the United States.