Monday, August 31, 2009

5 Signs You Are Not Compatible After All

Sometimes it is difficult to ascertain if you are truly compatible with your lover. Compatibility is all about the big picture, so don't sweat the small stuff like having “irreconcilable values” or “totally different life goals”, those things are just icing on the relationship cake! However, before you commit to being in it for the long haul, look for those subtle hints that you might not be seeing eye-to-eye with your partner on the things that really matter. Here are 5 signs you should look for that might be red flags that you are not as compatible as you thought you were.

He tries to murder you. This is a fairly accurate indication that the two of you might have some compatibility issues that need to be resolved before you agree to a long term commitment. The basic problem is that you want to remain alive and happy, and he wants you to die in a horrible and painful way. I would recommend that you try to come to terms with this basic disagreement before you go further with your relationship.

He places a restraining order on you. Not wanting to have you within 500 feet of his person and being willing to have you thrown into jail for coming closer than that is a clue that you might not be really as compatible as you might have thought. I would recommend giving him some time and space. I would further suggest that you stop using your telescopic lens to take photos of him and his new fiancé through his living room windows and move on to a newer (and perhaps healthier) relationship.

He doesn’t really even know who you are. It is hard to be compatible with someone when they have no idea who you are because they have never actually met you. You know you have a vivid fantasy life. But now it’s time you have come to realize that this relationship is merely a product of months and months of fantasizing about a love affair that exists only in your mind.

He moves to another hemisphere to get away from you. When a man changes his phone number and e-mail address, then crosses the globe without forwarding his new address, perhaps in a desperate attempt to get away from you, you may want to consider reading between the lines that the relationship probably will not be developing any further.

He has faked being in a coma for 3 years rather than have to deal with breaking up with you. When a man is would lay motionless in a lonely hospital bed for years and years rather than committing to you, you may or may not be truly compatible. The nuances of his interest in pursuing a deeper relationship with you are sometimes hard to read, such as in this example. Perhaps you should err on the side of caution and not pursue a relationship with this person.

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